Wednesday, February 14, 2007
Who will be?
Do I have the right to feel in love and be loved? Who will be? The past? The person I long for… the person that I unloved but loves me or the person whose fortuitously mine right now?
What's a reliable way to know if someone's right for you? There isn't one. How do you know for sure if you're ready to settle down? Who knows? Believe me, I've been trying to figure out these issues for myself for a number of time, before and even until now, and it is tricky… very complicated! Who hasn't had a niggling… irritating feeling like, "Is this the one for me?" Maybe you've got a great relationship goin` until you fin`lly get down to the decision to move in together. There's a decision that you even doesn’t know if it’s RIGHT.
Why? Maybe, there are so many considerations. Well, I don’t have the nerve to mention it all here. I just don’t know what to do. It seems like I realize somethin` and then I get weak-kneed, I feel uneasy, worried, and stressed. Whew~
Various researches and talking to friends- I’ve done just to help out my feelings. Nevertheless I read one extended article that helps me a lot… part of it says:
“How is it possible to know beforehand what sort of relationship you've got? It doesn't really matter until you realize that when you up the ante in love, you up both the positive and negative consequences. Any change in you and your partner's level of commitment can lead you to feel more of the greatest love and warmth you've ever experienced in your life. And subsequently you increase the chance that you'll endure the most profound rejection and pain you've ever imagined.
Here are just a few of the emotions you might feel when you go from dating many to dating one; from seeing each other five nights a week to living together; from being a couple to getting engaged; and from engagement to marriage and beyond:
Joy. Panic. Contentment. Sadness. Glee! Boredom. Relief. Indifference. Anger! Satisfaction. Terror. Peace. Anxiety. Dread. Fulfillment. Repression...you get the idea.”
“In the past we have asked for a great relationship, never received it, and never bothered to do anything differently and wondered why God didn't answer our prayer. Hopefully, we have learned that lesson by now. That's like asking God for a great job and never going to look for one. Excuse me! I don't believe that's what God had in mind. We must be thankful and do something.
Being thankful for the relationships you already have is one of the keys to attracting the relationships you want. Cultivate the practice of affirmative prayer. An attitude of gratitude is faith in action. It is a very satisfying feeling to know that what you are thankful for, you will experience. What you focus on, manifests.”
… that helps me for where I am now~
What's a reliable way to know if someone's right for you? There isn't one. How do you know for sure if you're ready to settle down? Who knows? Believe me, I've been trying to figure out these issues for myself for a number of time, before and even until now, and it is tricky… very complicated! Who hasn't had a niggling… irritating feeling like, "Is this the one for me?" Maybe you've got a great relationship goin` until you fin`lly get down to the decision to move in together. There's a decision that you even doesn’t know if it’s RIGHT.
Why? Maybe, there are so many considerations. Well, I don’t have the nerve to mention it all here. I just don’t know what to do. It seems like I realize somethin` and then I get weak-kneed, I feel uneasy, worried, and stressed. Whew~
Various researches and talking to friends- I’ve done just to help out my feelings. Nevertheless I read one extended article that helps me a lot… part of it says:
“How is it possible to know beforehand what sort of relationship you've got? It doesn't really matter until you realize that when you up the ante in love, you up both the positive and negative consequences. Any change in you and your partner's level of commitment can lead you to feel more of the greatest love and warmth you've ever experienced in your life. And subsequently you increase the chance that you'll endure the most profound rejection and pain you've ever imagined.
Here are just a few of the emotions you might feel when you go from dating many to dating one; from seeing each other five nights a week to living together; from being a couple to getting engaged; and from engagement to marriage and beyond:
Joy. Panic. Contentment. Sadness. Glee! Boredom. Relief. Indifference. Anger! Satisfaction. Terror. Peace. Anxiety. Dread. Fulfillment. Repression...you get the idea.”
“In the past we have asked for a great relationship, never received it, and never bothered to do anything differently and wondered why God didn't answer our prayer. Hopefully, we have learned that lesson by now. That's like asking God for a great job and never going to look for one. Excuse me! I don't believe that's what God had in mind. We must be thankful and do something.
Being thankful for the relationships you already have is one of the keys to attracting the relationships you want. Cultivate the practice of affirmative prayer. An attitude of gratitude is faith in action. It is a very satisfying feeling to know that what you are thankful for, you will experience. What you focus on, manifests.”
… that helps me for where I am now~
